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Judaismo y Mujer, Kabbalah

Question: “What does the Bible say about wives working outside the home?(1)

Answer:    Whether or not a woman ( who is a wive and a mother)  should work outside the home is a struggle for many couples and families today. The Tannak does have instructions regarding the role of such women.  Proverbs 31 speaks of “a wife of noble character.” Starting at verse 11, the writer praises this woman as one who does everything in her power to care for her family. She works hard to keep her house and her family in order. Verses 16, 18, 24, and 25 show that she is so industrious that she also moonlights with a cottage industry that provides additional income for her family. This woman’s motivation is important in that her business activities were the means to an end, not an end in themselves. She was providing for her family and her career, not working to keep up with the neighbors. Her employment was secondary to her true calling—the stewardship of her husband, children, and home.

And in the Good News of Yeshua , in Titus 2:3-4, Paul gives these instructions as to how a young married woman is to be trained by older women: “…train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands so that no one will malign the Word of God.” In this passage, the Bible is clear that when young children are in the picture, that is where the young woman’s responsibility lies. The older women are to teach the younger women and to live lives that glorify God. Keeping these responsibilities in mind, an older woman’s time can be spent at the Lord’s leading and her discretion.

The Bible nowhere forbids a woman from working outside the home. However, the Bible does teach what a woman’s priorities are to be. If working outside the home causes a woman to neglect her children and husband, then it is wrong for that woman to work outside the home. If a biblical  woman can work outside the home and still provide a loving, caring environment for her children and husband, then it is perfectly acceptable for her to work outside the home. With those principles in mind, there is freedom. Women who work outside the home should not be condemned, and neither should women who focus on the stewardship of the home be treated with condescension.

For centuris  gender’s  inequality  did not exist. There was a time when woman, besides the duties that came to her with motherhood, had almost monopoly of the industrial occupations. Man was either a fighting animal making war on his fellows and protecting the community in which he lived through his military prowess, or else he was engaged in the lucrative pastime of the chase.   “Naturally, no one would advocate going back to the semi-savage state, when woman practically did all the work. But, it must be remembered, work is not a hardship, it is a right; and when man took away from woman the right to work he placed upon her shoulders the burden of idleness, which is really the greatest and most enervating of hardships. The real trouble to-day lies in the fact that woman has not enough work to do.”

Motherhood is a season,   a child is only an incident in the life of a woman. The woman whose activities are restricted to the raising of children must inevitably find herself, sooner or later, without employment. If he children furnish her with her only or her chief occupation she will be Oslerized at the age of 40 or 50.

Marriage

Why do women marry?   culturally it used to be the tradition that too many of them look upon a husband merely as a means of support, and parents or the community would  invest in marriage accordingly.  Not today. We’s seen why? The danger shows itself before marriage. Many a girl were  brought up without any gainful occupation.

Sso she would dependent upon other for her support. She had �no place in the world,” as it is commonly termed. Thanks G-d girls education, career and employment  is not encourage in the Torah or Judaism.   Naturally, the old situation is irksome to any women,  how could it be without education ,career or a job?  The  Torah promotes  and sets about bettering women’s  condition.  But the weight of custom, the venerable and twisted social traditions handed down to us from our ancestors, prescribed what  young woman used to  do under these circumstances — and it was to  marry. Marriage in those times and under such conditions ( without education, career and employment) was the thoughtless women’s  refuge from a world that she did not comprehend. It brough her the support and the position that she needed, and society decred that it was right for her to accept these things at the hands of her husband without making any return in kind to him. She was  in a state of dependence before marriage, and that condition is naturally increased by marriage. Today is not so.

Women heeds work in order to become the best kind of mother; it is merely a habit of thought, before everything was  based on a wrong premise, that lead her to the belief that an outside occupation  or job had to  be abandoned when she got married.  Today women know that  the work must be of the right kind, suitable to her condition — there is no sight more deplorable than the child-bearing woman who is forced to toil in a factory. In a so called man-made world, however, where will these suitable occupations come from ?

As a first precaution and  against matrimonial unhappiness it would be well if the woman, before entering upon marriage, should make herself with education,  a career path and have a job . She should  through the cultivation of some gainful occupation, be financially  independent in the worldly sense of the word. It is woman’s dependence upon man that warps her judgment, that makes her see things in an artificial rather than a natural light. An ideal marriage means a union of equals, a contract between two financially independent people, each engaged in his or her own occupation, and attracted to each other by a feeling of mutual friendship.  If not so,  this is  where the woman ina  marriage union, without an outside occupation becomes, for her at least, a barren waste of energy.

Today’s biblical and  Jewish women stand for a new idea of life. She has been able to put this idea to a practical test in certain isolated instances, and it spite of the fact that she has to fight against certain man-made conditions. But it is natural that she should wish for an equal vote in the control of those conditions, in order that she may carry out her ideas to their complete fulfillment.

The outside occupation for the married woman

Women should  get an occupation that will bring into her life the broadening influences of the world that lies above and beyond her little hearthstone, and that will enable her to meet herself and   her husband on the common ground of the mutual friendship and esteem that is fostered by a mingling of independent and impersonal interests — whenever she  finds this occupation ? It should be of a remunerative character.

We encourage women to  remain as much as possible financially independent, as you never know the future. Futhermore self-sufficiency builds self-esteem and confidence, allowing you to participate in relationships out of conscious choice instead of a desperate need.

About Anni Orekh

Anni Orekh (which translated from Hebrew means: I m an editor (Publisher) it is the online pen-name of author and Managing Director of MD Enterprises.

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